dealing with ignorance

by Midnight Demon, posted in blogging, chronic physical pain

Today I posted a status on Facebook about someone who wanted me to find religion as a way of coping with my pain. I found it offensive as I am not a religious person. I then get a response to the status that I should grow up and deal with the pain like this person does. What. The. Fuck. How dare you tell me to just suck it up and move on. Don’t you think I have tried that method. And here is news for you…it doesn’t work! I am still in pain regardless. If I don’t take my pain meds I am screwed, royally. And that was what started all of this. Me ranting about my doctor and him telling me I should lose weight. I then commented on how I should just starve myself this way I would lose the weight faster. I then got a response saying that my family would not want me to whither away and die like that. Again…What,the,fuck!! So I am done with Facebook because I should grow up and I am done with my CESSG support group because I should join a religion and not whither away and die. And I have no idea if any of this makes sense!! I seek support and when I want it I don’t get it and it is so frustrating. Granted there are a few exceptions. There are people that actually get that I have pain and don’t want to see me die. But then there are others that I just want to strangle and be like WTF!!!! But the growing up piece is the best advice I have heard. Shows you how ignorant people can be regarding pain. I understand this person suffers from pain too but come on. Grow up? Really? Is that the same as cheer up things could be worse with my depression? Oh I am sure she would shit her pants if she read my nothing man blog. I am just so frustrated that I am taking it out on the one place that I can…my blog. It is the only safe haven that I have where I am not criticized for what I write. Think I am a little tired of this crap. I am tired of feeling like a lump on the log. I set out to do nothing today and I wrote two blogs. Now it is not even seven o’clock and I want to go to bed. Dealing with pain is exhausting. So is dealing with ignorance.

8 thoughts on “dealing with ignorance”

  1. Dealing with pain is exhausting, is never-ending work and is something we do by ourselves. But dealing with ignorant people? I know what you mean when you say that it’s exhausting. Especially when they are near you and the communication is inevitable. But sometimes, you just have to ignore them. Sometimes, explaining them the world is just giving away your time and energy. They will still be ignorant, and you will be frustrated and tired. Reading your post is like reading what I was feeling last week. Perfectly described!

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  2. Ha!!! I think you know my view on organised religions (not good…in fact I am actively non-religious!!!). I also, like you, have chronic pain (the pain of arachnoiditis was described by a doctor with the condition as similar to the pain of cancer, but without the relief of death at the end of it). I have also had my various run ins with different religious types. My view (as a generalisation) is the more religious the person professes to be the less compassion and empathy that they actually have for others… So their religion can allow them to make judgements on other people’s lives (sexual preferences, gender identification, etc, etc), but without any real understanding from a position of total ignorance (because their pretend friend, “tells” them what to think, etc.). Don’t rise to it…they have NOTHING to offer you. Indeed they only make our lives more difficult, as they feel their own views (because they are religious!!) should trump other decisions based on facts and evidence…so they try to ban stem cell research (which could give us a cure), they try to make it more and more difficult to have access to certain types of drugs and painkillers (because they do not understand what chronic pain is really like). They feel that they have a right to decide what you can and can’t do to another consenting adult in the privacy of your own bedroom, they think they have a right to decide what children should be taught in schools. Just tell them to fuck off, and to take their imaginary friends with them.

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  3. Reblogged this on jenusingword's Blog and commented:
    I have had FB hate too. I have been there totally like midnightdemons7. I am starting to think that the only way to handle FB is to just post, share, do what you want, and if people say stupid things or I feel I have to debate my view….I just go silent. It’s not me being a coward or afraid. I just simply leave them to their own opinions, as hard as it is. People can say awful, mean, even stupid things!

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  6. thank your for your understanding. I know I should forget about Facebook but when you aren’t do much it just passes time and I am too addicted to one of their games to stop completely.

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  7. Thanks for writing the two posts. I dont do facebook except to sometimes connect with people I havent seen in a while. I begrudgingly do that also.
    I hear your pain dear friend.
    I do

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